Comments on: Traditional Marriage: An Outmoded Institution

By: Kirsten Uhler

Kirsten Uhler — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 19:30:46 +0000

@Jim – “Mean Joe Green” as in defensive tackle for the Pittsburg Steelers and 4-time superbowl champion? That’s cool!

You and Cindy have a great relationship, and that is what matters!

By: Jim Griggs

Jim Griggs — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 02:34:51 +0000

OK, I admit I don’t remember my wedding day, but then I had been drinking with a friend who had just come home from two years in Vietnam. Cindy had a fun time but it was only a beginning. We ahve been best friends since we met 42 years ago. We share everything, hobby’s, dreams, desires, successes and failures. Not sure if marriage was necessary in our case but back in the 60′s with conservative parents there were not many other choices. It was a nice gesture on my part to not only put Cindy thru her last two years of college but to assume the debt she ran up for the first two! Did I tell you she jumped rope with Mean Joe Green in college?

By: Kirsten Uhler

Kirsten Uhler — Mon, 11 May 2009 03:09:13 +0000

@Kim – You are awesome. You definitely have a healthy, mature view of relationships, and I value your opinion. Thank you.

Oh, I love that quote by Madeline Davis too. Very well said!

By: Kirsten Uhler

Kirsten Uhler — Wed, 06 May 2009 03:50:36 +0000

@Kerry – Thank you. You’re right, women need to get out of this mentality. The focus placed on the wedding day is ridiculous.

@brentdanley – I don’t think our girls will fall into the marriage trap, when we provide them with the tools to successfully develop self-esteem, convictions, and the ability to think and reason.

By: Kim

Kim — Wed, 06 May 2009 02:58:57 +0000

“Madeline Davis, past president of a homophile civil-rights organization said: “I don’t think the fact that two people love each other needs to be formalized. Being married means being blessed by the power structure, by the establishment, and I don’t want that. I don’t want this fucked-up society to say my relationship is OK. I’d feel weird if they said to me, ‘OK, within the framework of our beliefs, we will allow you to love each other.’” (Playboy, 1973, p. 76)”-

My sentiments exactly….I love that quote.

“I believe structure, stabilization, security, and consistency can be achieved without a legal marriage contract. A stable “family unit” can exist in a non-traditional sense.” That is a very powerful statement and the essence of your paper.

You have written a fabulous paper. I really felt your confidence grow as I read further into the paper, providing for a very climactic ending to a heated topic. Your extensive knowledge on both the history and the arguments shines through, I give you the highest marks Kirsten for standing against the tide of tradition.

YOU ROCK!!

By: brentdanley

brentdanley — Wed, 06 May 2009 00:14:49 +0000

@Kerry - Kirsten and I certainly don't encourage our girls to dream of marriage. In fact, whenever they mention a wedding or brides we ask, "Why would you want to get married?!" Marriage, like religion, is benign at best and usually destructive. Kirsten and I would divorce if it were feasible. I wish the government would stop promoting the antiquated and unnecessary institution of marriage. Marriage Is So Last Century Brent Danley, The Rhetoric, May 5, 2009

By: Kerry

Kerry — Tue, 05 May 2009 23:49:18 +0000

Very well said! I couldn’t agree more. And I think that until women realize that they are entirely conditioned to believe that their wedding day is the most important day of their lives, until they can break free of that mentality, their behavior will continue to reflect their status as objects rather than subjects in their own right.

Emma Goldman had a few interesting things to say about marriage ;) and she didn’t mince her words! LOL!